I have to admit, when I read the parts I think you're referring to here, I didn't factor gender in, I just assumed it was because her personality and attitude just rubbed them the wrong way. In contrast, the Malesome Threesome (Rand, Mat, Perrin) are initially really reluctant to take any kind...
The subject is probably best discussed in the other book forums - although I'd say that I think they do develop quite a bit throughout the series later on.
I tend to operate on the idea that the women in WoT have a certain disdain for certain traits they consider masculine due to the Breaking, much like many real-life cultures have had disdainful views of certain traits considered feminine due to mythical events like Eve succumbing to the...