I don't think she meant that as manipulation, though -- she wasn't intending to deceive him with them, just confess her feelings (which she then got embarrassed about, not least because he never made his feelings clear to her, and wrote the second letter to tell him that she didn't intend to be...
Yeah, Avi's pretty awesome.
Min just bothers me because she has no life outside of Rand. Avi's (becoming) a Wise One, Elayne's got her Daughter-Heir/Queen stuff, and Min's... just kind of there. And she spends a lot of time focusing on how she'd do anything for Rand, even if it means changing...
Absolutely agreed, Arecias. He loves all of them the same "amount," insofar as one can quantify love -- but he loves each of them differently. Min is his best friend, Elayne is the one he admires, Aviendha is the one who challenges him. They're all important qualities in love!