Why are so many relationships with younger women and older men?

Discussion in 'Wheel of Time Discussion - Books 1-14' started by Leira Galene, Apr 4, 2018.

  1. Alora Sionn

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    When I was 20 I was dating a guy 17 years older than me. :cheese So, I obviously don’t see anything “wrong” with it... :p What gets me is it should be the other way around given 1) Aes Sedai effective don’t age, wouldn’t they want a guy who’ll be around for anwhile? And 2) Aes Sedai generally aren’t interested in having children the biological norm of older men marrying younger women for children wouldn’t apply.

    I’ve never had issues with Nynaeve and Lan, but Siuan and Gareth felt forced, and Moiraine and Thom weird me out. I must say though, Morgase and Tallanvor took me a bit to get used to, but it ended up being one of my favorite relationships in the series once I got used to it.
     
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    Moiraine and Thom make no sense for about eighteen million reasons. Besties perhaps intense frenemies in political intrigue, sure. Lovers? *squints*
     
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    One thing to keep in mind is that these women are much more matured than their ages, everything they are going through and accomplishing just wouldn't be compatible with another 20 something guy. They are dealing with big responsibilities so they need someone that would be able to support them in what they are going through and they aren't going to run into many young men who would be mature enough to handle it. Compare Elayne or Nynaeve to Else Grinwell, a normal girl of the same age it would disturb me to see her with a much older man. You also have to recognize that this is love we are talking about, they have the qualities that make these women complete that your average 20 something men wont have developed yet. The only time an age difference concerned me was when Elayne was being stupid about Thom, and she was being exceedingly wool-headed.
     
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    I agree with Victoria. Plus men never grow up so they maybe 20 years older, but they're only 20 years old in maturity :lol
     
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    Oh god I forgot about Elayne and Thom. That was weird :lol
     
  7. Jarl Lewin

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    Yes, that is very true, and often true of real world relationships as well. The thing with Thom and Elayne was weird . . . but it was intriguing because it got the reader wondering if there was some fatherly connection--possibly biological--that Elayne was responding to in the only way she knew how. And as I recall, some of what she'd been through with Nynaeve and her own desire to measure up to her mother probably played a part as well. For a time I was really wondering if Thom might be her father, but that's out the window now.

    Sometimes older/younger works . . . sometimes it doesn't. Circumstances alter cases.
     
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    Yeah Jarl that's what I thought too and them together even with them not related would be just too much imo :lol
     
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    :lol

    Was listening to these guys earlier and this song reminded me of this thread ;)