Ripples of Kindness

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  1. Elania al'Manir

    Elania al'Manir Aes Sedai Head of the Yellow Ajah Forum Moderator

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    When I was growing up, my mom always gave each of us a quarter to put in the red buckets every time we saw one. At the time I never thought to ask how she always had them handy, but I just found out that she used to get rolls of quarters specifically for the season! :lol And then if she had extra in the roll at the end, she'd just dump them in herself.
     
  2. Apollo Legacy

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    Honestly people, what I think is lacking largely in society recently is what is being discussed on this forum right here. Small acts of kindness are something that can change someones day and improve someones life. Most often people view these types of things as needing to spend a large quantity of time volunteering but even doing something like buying someone a cup of coffee can go a long way and will spread in either case. I recently was in a Dunkin Donuts with some friends and offered to by a member of the armed services a coffee and he was blown away by something that I didn't even think twice about. It really is the little things that matter.
     
  3. Analiese Sinclaer

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    And sometimes, the act can be even smaller. I like to tell people when I notice something positive about them. Like I will randomly say to someone, excuse me, but I love you jacket, or hair, that is an amazing tattoo, or something and the look on their faces is awesome to see. They are almost always really surprised but also really pleased. It is a small thing, but it makes my day to see a stranger smile because of something I said.
     
  4. Narysse a'Jahar

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    A ripple of kindness I recently started was announcing on my firm's social media that under no circumstances would we engage in online harassment toward individuals or organizations using items not approved by a certain organization for cleaning headstones. These people were getting extremely nasty about it. I also stated that anyone in our social media circles who was found to be engaging in this harassment would promptly be banned, and I did ban a few individuals.

    It seems to have trickled down because suddenly the other groups aren't nearly as hostile.

    I have a study in the beginning phases started with a local cemetery to write up a report on safe cleaning chemicals. As the regional guru it seems appropriate now to do so to address the issue.
     
  5. Ty al'Djinn

    Ty al'Djinn Mod for Life Gaidin Company Commander of San d'ma Shadar Forum Moderator

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    That's pretty cool!

    I had no idea that gravekeepers could get so passionate about cleaning chemicals, but with all the preservation stuff I suppose it makes sense!

    Just one of those things I hadn't thought much about beforehand.
     
  6. Eliza Al'Shaw

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    I had someone be very kind to me on Friday. I was feeling very sick, and walking back to the train station was a struggle, one young lady saw I was suffering and offered me some water and checked I was OK. It's been a while since I've experienced human kindness from a stranger like that. It made me feel a little better. . . for like two second :lol
     
  7. Arevori

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    A friend of mine passed away on new years day, his little daughter just turned 1. Seeing everyone come together to come up with the funds for his funeral was a stunning reminder of how random acts of kindness can change someone's life. Most contributors never knew or met him, but cared anyway, and enough to provide the room for his loved ones to grieve. The collection set up on gofundme far exceeded the families expectations so that they were able to set up a trust-fund for the baby. The kindness of strangers meant so much to me, because I didn't have the means to contribute to the campaign when he passed. Instead I made his daughter an apron and a copy of her dad's famous bread-pudding recipe. Next time I have an extra $20, it's going to someone's gofundme - keep the ripples of kindness flowing.
     
  8. Eliza Al'Shaw

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    :hug I am sorry for your loss, it must have been a comfort to see such kindness at a time like that.
     
  9. Breya Catowin

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    This is where I'm going to come to cheer myself up about the state of the world now!

    I'm a giver. My favorite holiday is Christmas because I love going out and finding a wonderful gift that will brighten my loved ones lives.

    That being said, one of my favorite things to do is to pay for someone else's coffee, especially if it's a long wait to get it. And I have been known to leave very large tips whenever possible, although that's just not as common because I've got a budget to live on lol.

    I also have found that sometimes people just really love when you reach out and ask how they're doing, and then truly listen to them and care about what they choose to tell you.
     
  10. Ty al'Djinn

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    There is a particular art to finding a good gift that will make someone's life better, especially if they didn't know they needed it.

    ... I've alway sucked at it. Been working at improving, though.

    How do you figure out what people need?
     
  11. Breya Catowin

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    Sometimes it's really hard, especially if it's someone I don't know very well. Honestly I like when people make a list of things they would enjoy. I generally don't purchase from the list, but it does give you a better idea of what that person values. From there I will dive into the internet, any sites they have given links to, and Amazon, are great places to start.
     
  12. Miridyth Al'Landerin

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    For me it is the kids. Signing up to be a foster parent is bringing it forward. open the heart and hearth. Kids are the bomb.
     
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    I work at a vet's office, which is a very fast paced, emotional Rollercoaster environment, and lately I've been catching my coworkers as they go by me at the front desk and telling them they have been doing a great job and are appreciated. Also bragging to the boss about people who help me out. It costs you nothing to say nice things about people and it doesn't lessen you in any way to lift others up :)
     
  14. Leala Gymorraine

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    When I worked at the booking department of the jail, most of the calls I answered would involve giving people bad news. I was always careful to be kind and keep my tone professional. When I first started, a coworker who worked in a different capacity than me told me I sounded too perky, and that people would want to keep calling back.

    Well, when you call a jail, it's usually not because you want to.

    Anyways, I would get compliments from people calling in about my professionalism sometimes, and keeping that train of thought helped calm down agitated incoming inmates...usually.

    It generally gave me the perspective that I need to be kind in all that I do. Even dealing with coworkers, this mentality seemed to help.

    Coming into this new job, my boss made the comment that the mood around the office seemed to lift up a bit because of my attitude as well.

    I'll keep trying... >.>
     
  15. Ty al'Djinn

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    People like you are all that keep me going, some days.
     
  16. Leala Gymorraine

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    I'm far from perfect, but I truly believe we should all try to take care of each other. ^^