My Resignation as Amyrlin

Eleyan Al'Landerin

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I'm heading into this without having a really solid plan for how to write it (which is generally not good for brevity). I think I've always hoped I'd pass this position along. Passing the Amyrlin Seat means that what we've created has gotten big enough to exist without my personality and pushing behind it. I've held this Seat for a decade. This place has moved from a small tongue-in-cheek website to a non-profit corporation. My passing of the stole is not indicative of a failure; it indicates rather that we've been here a long time and we are not going away in the forseeable future. I have had the honor of leading this community for over a decade (indeed, for pretty much most of my adult life). I think that must be a significantly large enough amount of time to do what I can do to the best of my ability. That being done, this community is full of unbelievably talented individuals who have both a strong and personal understanding of our history as well as a fresh vision and unfettered idealism for our future.

According to our best practices, the Amyrlin Seat should give approximately 1 year's notice. It is my intention to have the stole passed on at 11th Anni (which hasn't been decided and announced yet). The Keeper position recently transferred with about 4- 5 months, and it felt hurried. It is my understanding that we will be opening up the application process as soon as we reasonably can (we still have some Board of Director's meetings to get through to figure out our approach to this. We have not done it before). Our goal, I think, is to allow a 6 - 9 month transition/training period. I think it is worth noting that a lot of my work cannot be easily documented by a list of responsabilities. Your next Amyrlin has people to meet and will need to establish relationships in a much shorter amount of time than I had. I want to give him/her as much chance for success as I can.

And yes. The position of Amyrlin is not (cannot) segregated by gender. We legally cannot do that as we're set up, nor should we. As for the required qualifications? I don't know yet. This is something else we need to figure out in our next Board Meeting. I think it is safe to say that it will be more stringent that the requirements for Keeper, will require a significant time spent as a member, and significant time spent as a Sr. Member. I think that experience in several departments and previous leadership experience within our community will be required. Personally, though..... off the top of my head I can think of several people who would be exceptional in carrying on the torch. I feel incredibly blessed that we have such people.

I am, btw, asking the Board on Monday to not make people who wrote in for Keeper completely redo their application if they wish to be considered for Amyrlin. That said, I am only one of three votes. Moreover, Amyrlin is a very different position from Keeper... so even if you applied, you might consider reworking it.

Speaking of Keepers, my one regret out of this is not being able to work longer with Leora Sedai. She is exceptional, and I am glad I get to work with her a bit before I retire. She was chosen, though, with the understanding that I would likely not be her only partner in crime during her term. We want to give the new Amyrlin and the new Keeper time to form a strong working relationship. In all honesty, the timing is right to turn over my position.

As for me? The extent of my future will be determined by the Board of Directors meeting next week. I think we'll get through the most of it early next week. I will be passing on the Amyrlin Seat/CEO position. I will likely be staying on the Board. I intend to remain on executive staff as an advisor, though how that will work has not yet even been discussed. I am, though, and always will be the founder of TarValon.Net. I like that. :) I'll always have a place here, and I will always be a unique part of it. I will always work towards our success.

When I took on the ring and lost my initial coin toss, I had several unattainable hopes for us. They were stupidly fantastic.
I wanted to create a real life organization of Servants of All.
I wanted to create a real life "White Tower" with Aes Sedai that were recognized as such.
I wanted us to be known to RJ and those who also worked on making his world come alive.
I wanted us to be taken seriously.
I wanted us to make a significant difference in the world around us... big enough that we could all feel that together we accomplished lasting and meaningful change in the world.
I wanted us to be in the books.
I wanted RJ and Team Jordan to know us and like us.
I wanted to create a community that would help eachother in disaster, or in finding a job, or roomates, or a family.
I wanted us to throw some amazing parties. :D

My Children... my Sons and my Daughters.....
I have met all of my goals that I wished for us and for you. I have been blessed personally as well. Working for you and building this organization has given me more opportunities for learning and growth than anyone can hope for. I have dedicated over 10 years of my life to this place. This community has given me far far more in return, and I am the luckiest woman in the world.

I feel right in saying that I've met my goals. I feel right in making room for the next person who will bring enthusiasm and vision. I am looking forward to, for the first time, getting to be a member.

(Yes, I am still attending the Euro 10th Anni party while I hold the position of Amyrlin; I'm not backing out of it..... I've wanted to join you and celebrate with you for so long :hug ).

Huh.
There is it.
It looks starker when it is written.

I love you.

Melissa/Eleyan
 
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I've said a lot in the last year about what you mean to me, and what this crazy weird internet cult has meant to me over the last nine years of my life.

When I first came on, it seemed like this place had already been here forever, and was just so.... firm. So solid, so grounded. I get a little weirded out when I think about how I've been here almost as long as you have. :look:

Thank you for your time here. Thank you for your dedication to us. Thank you for starting this crazy internet cult.

And no. I won't let you ride off into the sunset, so don't even think about it. We will still need you.
 

Jeffan Caliarthan

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Love you, babe. :hug You're not going to go and disappear entirely after this, right? I expect to see more of you, in fact!

(also, if this is an April Fools, I am going to spank you so hard. SO. HARD.)
 

Nandi el'Shahir

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Either this as an April Fools joke or if it's for real, I wish you joy with your next steps here with the site. It's been wonderful to have you as Amyrlin.
 

Samarasin Tavaral

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This is an April Fool's joke, right? I refuse to let it be true. :tug I haven't even had the pleasure of meeting you yet!! :cry

If, in fact, it is true...Then I hope that I have the pleasure of creating mischief with you as a member, and that I will get the chance to know you in that respect. Not that I create any mischief anywhere. :look:

:hug to you. And thank you for creating this wonderful site. I wish you all the best.
 

Rinwyn Sihrera

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My initial reaction was "No, I don't believe it and refuse to. We should all band together and chain/duct tape/crazy glue her to this stole for the rest of her life!" It brought me to tears. You have been an inspiration to us and have given us more family than we know what to do with, and we love you for it. Initial reaction aside, I've always trusted your judgement and that hasn't changed. You've gone above and beyond anything that could have been expected, and it is our duty and our responsibilty to thank you for all you've done. At this point, it doesn't seem possible that anyone can fill your capable Amyrlin stilettos as well as you have done, but if you have faith in the one who secceeds you, then I will too.

Thank you for everything.

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Meeting you at Anni was such a highlight for me. You've created such a wonderful place for all of us and I thank you for that. I'm sure whoever is chosen to replace you will do a wonderful job, but this site will never be the same without you as Amyrlin. We love you so much, and I expect you to post twice as much when you're no longer in that position!! :kiss
 

Serenla Tamowith

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Eleyan, the last seven years of my life have been a lovely ride, in part due to this site. :hug





*And no folks, this isn't a joke.*
 

Jaryd Kosari

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This makes me so sad. :(
 

Elia LePhant

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Due to your creation of this community you have brought so much love and happiness into my life. Thank you, Melissa. :hug
 

Eleyan Al'Landerin

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:hug


I'm kind of horrified to realize my timing. :brown-blink:


So no. Not a joke. I turned in my letter at the end of last week. We'll finalize things in the next 4 or 5 days. It hadn't occurred to me that this might be viewed as a prank. I should have known better. :P Just know.... when I play pranks I change the site's color scheme, ban the word "it", and try to convince people I will make a fortune off of them clicking on ads. :look: Truly though, I don't mess around with these matters. I wish I had been a bit more conscious about the date. :P

:hug
 

Nandi el'Shahir

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Thank you for all your hard work. :hug
 

Melisande Arneil

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:hug :hug :hug

I was so happy to spend time with you this past Anni. Having you ask about my daughter meant the world to me. If it weren't for you creating this site, I wouldn't have met so many wonderful people. I wouldn't have grown as a person, and I wouldn't have been able to travel as much as I have.

I have been able to connect with a group of wonderful people. I have been able to travel. I have been able to grow.

All my "I have"s are because of you.

Thank you, Melissa...thank you so much :hug :hug :hug
 

Rhed al'Tere

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Melissa, you've changed my life, directly and indirectly, in ways I never would have imagined when I joined up 9 years ago. Because of this site, I've traveled, I've gained friends around the world, I've become the woman I am, I've found two sisters. I love you, and I'm so very proud of you. :hug
 

Khisanth al'Danya

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Somehow the idea of you no longer as Amyrlin seems so wrong to me. :(


That being said, I am so grateful to you for starting this site and that I am a part of it. I have gained so much through this site. Family, friends, and memories. I still remember when I first met you and you were so excited to meet me. That right there was one of the best moments in my time here at the Tower. Thank you so much for what you have created and built for us here. I am so proud to be a part of it and to have you as a friend. :D

Love you lots, Melissa!!!

:hug :hug :hug
 
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I wish I could have gotten to know you and meet you in person...for this I'm sorry. :(
But I wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you do on here for the rest of your term and once you step down.

-Neo-
 

Vallen Draevis

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I'm so sad to see your time as our Mother come to an end. Actually, I'm crying as I write thing. But I'm so happy that you have been able to attain your goals, and that, in a small way, I've been able to be a part of that.

I cannot thank you enough for starting this site, this place I consider home. So I'll just keep it simple and say thank you for giving this to all of us. Thanks for having this dream and following through. Thanks for being our leader for 10 years. :hug
 

Keisha al'Benn

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I am sure once the shock of this wears off I will have much to say....for now I just want to cry and say how much I love you and what you have done here for all of us.
 
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