As a nonmonogamous person, I take exception to the idea that my relationships with other people outside my primary partner don't mean as much, or that none of my relationships can be very special, deep, or trusting. In my experience, my partners trust me MORE because we have to communicate so much about feelings and other fluffy stuff. Not to mention calendars. That's neither here nor there. I am here for queering up WoT, for making explicit the things that were taken for granted, though the explicitness may be offhand, casual, and unworthy of mention to other characters because it's taken as a matter of course.