ATTN: Everyone, concerning Riley and his position as CFO

Zashara Sho'am

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I'm sorry. I wasn't trying to be divisive or argumentative. I was just presenting some thoughts that came into my head when I was mulling this over last night. I'm sorry I presented it poorly.

For the record, my post wasn't directed to you. Please don't take it (and other posts) so personally.
 
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The greatest of people are still just people. We all face dark times and tough options and sometimes the darkest of roads appears the easiest option. I feel more pity and sadness for Riley than any kind of anger. I am glad he is cooperating and hope he continues to do so for his own sake, if not for all the friends he has so clearly let down in this community.

"It is often said that no-one can walk in the Shadow so long that they cannot walk in the Light".
 

Eleyan Al'Landerin

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Added to it, yes money can be replaced, but just because it was something that can be replaced, doesn't mean the trust can be. Not just trust in Riley, but it hurt the site as well, and while we all feel our Board will put in place a checks and balance system, his actions will linger in the members minds, and some of us will always worry, will my event I paid for still fall into place (future events as Fall Ball was covered), will my donation go to the site as I hoped it would? You can't remove that small worry, and for some of us that hurts us more than just the financial loss to our community.

Trust is a tricky topic. I'm a firm believer that trust isnt something that can be taken away. At most, it is something that we can choose to set aside ourselves, but no one can take it from us without our consent. Thats not to say that sometimes trust doesn't need to be set down for a little while, but rather that we understand it is we who set it down by choice. Certainty isn't really a part of trust for me, I don't think. If I were certain, it wouldn't BE trust that I was giving.

I think I count among those who are hurt beyond the financial loss to the community. I can't express it yet. Yes, part of that is the inability to make a comment, but even if I could I am still too overwhelmed to effectively do so right now. I've been reading all of the threads, though. Some posts I find very comforting to read. Some of them increase the stress I'm feeling exponentially. Over all, though, I am in awe of the constructive responses. I am in awe seeing so many people talk about so many difficult things with respect and sensitivity simply because they recognize that this is a time when their friends need both of those things in spades.

I am in awe of the job being done not only by Mother and the Keeper, but by everyone. Out of this, I am finding so many examples of love and many actions that re-enforce my trust in the power of specialness of this community. The first reactions about dealing with New York were all business - no time was wasted before trying to come up with workable alternatives. A Board Member (and a new one at that - he joined us this summer) used his own funds to make sure that we could meet our contractual obligations on hold the event as planned. I see people who are working incredibly long hours trying to figure out what we do now. I see people calling to eachother and reaching out to one another and checking to make sure that everyone is ok. I see people being supportive of the wide range of feelings we are dealing with right now.

Will you chose to donate to the general operation of the community again? I don't know if you will, but whatever you do it is ok. I plan on doing so once an improved accounting plan is in place and I feel satisfied that there are checks and balances that will make this past event much more difficult to repeat. That's where I've decided to make my line. I feel comfortable with that line because, while a bad thing happened, what is important to me are our relationships and our efforts. Those are just as strong, the goals just as important, and our ability to make a difference together can't be stolen.

We havent lost that. You have all proven that we still have the most precious things, and I am very very glad of it. I am inexpressibly glad.
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As always Eleyan, you present us with wisdom, and a clear and logical look at things.
 
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I first saw this post early the other morning when it was just one page long. It has taken me until now to sort thru my feelings about this matter. Am I angry? Yes I am furious! Am I sad? Yes my heart cries for each of you that is affected including Riley. I do know financial stress and yes I have been in financial distress before but NEVER would I betray my friends and family to take care of a financial matter. I got myself in to that position and I will get myself out. No matter how sad I am that this happened, it did, and it must be dealt with carefully. I applaud the board members and how they have handled it thus far. I hope we can all pull together and get thru this tough time. That being said I agree with the ban (even thou it breaks my heart). Trust is important and I think we can definately trust our board to do the right thing.

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Niere al'Aman

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This is so tragic :( ....... on so many different levels.

If there is a way for me to help, I will be glad to do so.
 
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Trust is big. I hope to trust again. I hope to donate again. The scholarship was one of my favorite gifts. I hope...

:kiss:vc

Will you chose to donate to the general operation of the community again? I don't know if you will, but whatever you do it is ok. I plan on doing so once an improved accounting plan is in place and I feel satisfied that there are checks and balances that will make this past event much more difficult to repeat. That's where I've decided to make my line. I feel comfortable with that line because, while a bad thing happened, what is important to me are our relationships and our efforts. Those are just as strong, the goals just as important, and our ability to make a difference together can't be stolen.
 

Taika Vinh

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This embezzling hasn't taken away my trust towards anyone other than Riley. Our next treasurer would be extremely dim if s/he attempted anything similar. So I'll be donating to Tower and the charities again as soon as there's a procedure for that in place.

I'll keep my feelings about Riley sealed in Brown, but wanted to add my thanks to our Amyrlin, Caerwyn, Hammar, and everybody else who is clearing this mess. :bow
 
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This embezzling hasn't taken away my trust towards anyone other than Riley. Our next treasurer would be extremely dim if s/he attempted anything similar. So I'll be donating to Tower and the charities again as soon as there's a procedure for that in

This
 

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Thank you for saying exactly how I feel, Taika.

Still in shock days after learning this. Thank you to everyone who is trying to make this better, and for all of you who have made me proud to be part of this site.
 

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I am shocked by this news. I think it speaks volumes towards the commitment of our membership and leadership that the Tower still stands after such a monumental betrayal.
 
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I would like to add that I am so sorry for everyone who has been touched by this event. If anyone happens to want to vent or talk, feel free to PM me. It doesn't matter if you agree with me on the situation. Being here for each other is part of what makes the Tower strong. I may be somewhat unfamiliar with many of you, but that can always change. :)
 
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I would like to add that I am so sorry for everyone who has been touched by this event. If anyone happens to want to vent or talk, feel free to PM me. It doesn't matter if you agree with me on the situation. Being here for each other is part of what makes the Tower strong. I may be somewhat unfamiliar with many of you, but that can always change. :)


:hug Emerylde Sedai , This is why I am proud to call this place home ! :pleased-1:
 
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